Divorced couple with children don’t even worth carrying the title of parents.
…was what I said on @retikanajma’s tweet (With a divorce you make children carry the consequences of the mistake they haven’t ever made, you labeled them ‘children of a broken home.’), just a few days ago.
I have no regrets. Although there’s a warning that this is a completely subjective, one-sided accusation.
I accuse couples who decided to break up when there were children between them as reckless and highly egoistic. Not that it wasn’t their right to have a divorce, not that it wasn’t humane to be selfish. But parents are not people who sacrifice their children’s childhood and life for the sake of their egos. No divorce was ever made for the well-being of the children. No matter how you promised to ‘keep them happy’, children only get dragged around, houses to houses, siblings separated, either pretending not being bothered by the now-handicapped family or simply stop caring at all.
And the creatures who cause this are not parents. They might be caretakers, but are they still worthy of the meaning of parents to their children?
If the so-called blind family-love is involved, that is. But, personally, I can’t accept that.
You shouldn’t have children in the first place if you can’t assure them a family. You don’t go marry someone and play happy family then cancel it as you wish when it doesn’t work out. Children are easily damaged and torn apart. They are not to be forced to adjust or think like a grown up when they still have the blissful right to be children. A crack in their childhood, the pieces might be reattached, the reality might be fixed, but the crack’s still there. The damage might be corrected, covered, buried—but it’s there.
It’s a lifelong scar that nobody ever wants.
And yes, this rant exists because I know exactly how crap that is.